Episode 94 – Empathy, Connection, and Courage

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Who hosted the #oklaed chat and where to find them on Twitter:

Kristin Atchley @kristinatchley – School Counselor Lady of OSDE

Overview of chat topic

Empathy, Connection, and Courage

Questions from the chat:

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Q1: What is one area this year you have leaned into vulnerability and rumbled? #oklaed pic.twitter.com/4f5gjQfVDO

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A1: I lean into vulnerability every time I own a mistake. Every time I don’t have the answers. Every time I admit imperfection. I embrace that feeling although uncomfortable, it’s when I grow and I can be seen as human by my students. #oklaed

— Kimberly Blodgett (@KimberBlodgett) December 17, 2018

A1: This year I leaned all the way into my vulnerabilities and asked thousands of residents for honest feedback on how things are working in #oklaed. There is so much power in listening. https://t.co/GDK5Li1484

— Carri Hicks (@hicks4ok) December 17, 2018

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Q2: Read and reflect on a few of the answers to Q1.
Show empathy
Give grace
Hold space #oklaED pic.twitter.com/JjHibFosrI

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

Discuss any thoughts to this… #oklaed pic.twitter.com/ISqgJtVR6e

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A2: Sherri, I love this! Nothing great was ever accomplished without a few missteps! I would much rather have a teacher that “dares to be great” and comes up short.. than one who never dares! #oklaed https://t.co/XOQYK5jgaV

— Mike Dunn (@Coach_Mike_D) December 17, 2018

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Q3: Finish this statement "Growing up, I believed vulnerability was…" #oklaed pic.twitter.com/CiOe6dPgqU

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A3 – Weakness. Honestly, I have a hard time asking for help, saying no, and admitting I can’t do it all. I am learning, however, that vulnerability is strength. #oklaed https://t.co/LHtFwxAuKx

— Shari Gateley (@ShariGateley) December 17, 2018

A3: …showing someone your weakness. Now I think it is showing someone YOU (strengths, weaknesses, hopes, failures, etc.) and dealing with whatever fallout might occur. #oklaed https://t.co/eDbJS9Fudp

— Debra Thoreson (@djthoreson) December 17, 2018

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Q3: Finish this statement "Growing up, I believed vulnerability was…" #oklaed pic.twitter.com/CiOe6dPgqU

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A4 Vulnerability is a willingness to open up, share shortcomings/failures and have conversations about them to facilitate growth in yourself and maybe keep others from following the same path you did #oklaed

— Jason Bengs (@jasonbengs) December 17, 2018

A4: ….being brave enough to admit when you’re wrong & say I’m sorry when needed no matter your position and really mean it. …..being brave enough to ask for help and admit you don’t know everything. …the desire to get out of comfort zone #oklaed

— Steve Gilliland (@Stv_Gilliland) December 17, 2018

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Q5: #oklaEd pic.twitter.com/OhXKaEdPio

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A5: I haven’t ever been there when it actually happened. I always hear about it later. I think God is protecting people because I would probably kill them on the spot. Pray for me. #oklaed https://t.co/qxwlgTecOd

— Mrs. Telannia Norfar (@thnorfar) December 17, 2018

A5: This is occurring nationwide in so many schools/districts where the adults believe that the practices of yesteryear were effective. See something, say something. #oklaed https://t.co/gFws7ebKXG

— Wm Stubbs (@WmStubbs) December 17, 2018

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Q6: How does this idea apply to your work? #oklaed pic.twitter.com/bIvqFtcKy5

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

Just a reminder… #oklaed pic.twitter.com/nKzfXF9khQ

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A6: There are days when I feel that I spend more time managing behavior, but then there are days when I feel I have continued to build my rapport with my students. I prefer to manage behavior first before I do anything else. #oklaed

— Chong Si Lor- #INFP (@chong2087) December 17, 2018

A6) I have realized that education is a calling and it is about the relationship. If you don’t build them, then you are on sand the entire time. Kids, adults, us as a human race … we ALL need that human connection. #oklaed https://t.co/XlphvCG6S9

— Abby H. Land (@Land_ELA) December 17, 2018

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Q7: Read and reflect on a few of the answers to Q6. #oklaed pic.twitter.com/ql139DYd4J

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A7: I’ve been in-a-many schools nationwide. This part of school leadership is draining and can thwart student achievement and culture if not addressed. My favorite phrase is whatever isn’t THE VISION is DIVISION. #oklaed https://t.co/xphYbo8Nkt

— Wm Stubbs (@WmStubbs) December 17, 2018

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Q8: Shame vs. Guilt. #oklaED pic.twitter.com/SMsPklnU9c

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A8) I am the first to admit that I have some white guilt. I grew up with a tremendous amount of privilege. But the "savior complex" is part of the problem in education. Kids and families don't need saving. They need empowering #oklaed

— TLI Oklahoma (@OklahomaTli) December 17, 2018

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Q9: #oklaED pic.twitter.com/f71CWKC81B

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

A9 – I make myself extra busy so I don’t have to face those feelings. #oklaed https://t.co/u23mHVJwRI

— Shari Gateley (@ShariGateley) December 17, 2018

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Q10: Reflect on the last two questions. #oklaED pic.twitter.com/WSzaQkms6B

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

Thoughts? #oklaED pic.twitter.com/4aGBWq2YzF

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

Thanks for hanging out tonight. Go out a change the world. #oklaED pic.twitter.com/YyEiFMSI6O

— 🎄kristmas actually🎄 (@KristinAtchley) December 17, 2018

Boomsauce Tweet(s) of the Night:

Erin:

Scott:

A9: I read my first group of students' exit tickets. I still have them. They remind me why I chose to stay in Oklahoma when I could have gone somewhere else. Sometimes, being vulnerable in a positive manner can negate the negative vulnerability that I feel. #oklaed

— Chong Si Lor- #INFP (@chong2087) December 17, 2018

Next Week on the #OklaEd Chat:

Anne Beck @mrsbeck25 – Reflect and Refresh

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